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Let’s face it, one of the reasons we have profiles on the dating apps and sites is for the dopamine hit of getting that notification that someone ‘cruised’ or ‘swiped’ or messaged us. However, for… Read More »Expectations


So, I’ve let this blog rot and it has been years since the last post back when it was originally hosted on Blogger. I’ve imported all my blog posts from the old site into WordPress… Read More »Revived

Coming Out

3rd August 2005 – The fateful day that I finally spilt the beans. My mom had been visiting and staying with me, and the week before, she had met S at a dinner I had… Read More »Coming Out

The Year That Was

Wow. What a year it has been. A big year of growth and transformation for me. Death and rebirth. At the time I started this blog, I was in an emotional flux, and only starting… Read More »The Year That Was

Redemption Melbourne

Wow, what a weekend. Last Saturday there was a dance party called Redemption, themed ‘Spartacus’ for the Melbourne Leather Festival. Dress code called for leather, or fetish-wear like rubber, pvc or uniforms. I went with… Read More »Redemption Melbourne


After a disappointing work-related meeting today, I’ve dipped again. Now I have additional things to worry about, job-wise. On the advice of my best online rubber buddy, (yes, you!), I put on my rubber shirt.… Read More »Escapism